You are the king of your castle and the guardian of your home. You are the provider, protector, and backbone of your family. It is a huge responsibility and a heavy weight to bear: to whom much is given much is required (Luke 12:48). How easy it can be for the head of the household to cross the line from leader to abuser. It is only the man grounded in Christ who can assure his family security and not fear.

Unfortunately, many Christian men use certain verses aimed at the wife to their advantage. Yes, your wife is instructed to submit to you; however, the bible also spells out the behavior of a godly husband.
Your wife’s duty as your helpmate is to support your dreams and uphold your decisions, to make your home a sanctuary from the stress of everyday life. It should be a pleasure to arrive to the loving arms of your wife. Make sure she receives you with joy and not trepidation. Neither your queen nor your prince/princess should be trembling with fear at the thought of your arrival.

Whatever problems arise during the workday have nothing to do with your family: don’t make them pay for what others have done to irritate or hurt you. Pray on your way home. Worship. Give yourself time to adjust roles. You are not an employer/employee at home: you are husband and father. Also, bear in mind that the enemy loves to wreak havoc in christian homes. When you find yourself arguing with your spouse or kids and notice that one is mishearing the other, know that the devil is using scramblers to cause confusion and strife. Crush the scramblers underfoot bind miscommunication, confusion and strife as you loose understanding, clarity and peace. Take your God given spiritual authority over your home.

Always remember: the day you got married your wife took first place in your heart. As difficult as it may be for some mothers to take a step back, it is their obligation. Set the tone early on in your marriage; your queen should never feel like she’s competing with your mother. Allowing passive aggressive behavior from your parent to go unchecked guarantees discord in your home. There should only be one queen in your kingdom; as the king of your castle, make sure your wife knows without a shadow of a doubt that her place is on her throne by your side.
Don’t give the devil a foothold; he will kick the door open and wreak havoc on your family if you let him. Use godly wisdom in your marriage and with your children.

Remember, you are setting the model to your children for what a husband and father must be in their future. It is your obligation as their father to give them a godly example so that they will never settle for anything less. Be encouraged; your wife is praying for you.

Bible verses for husbands:
Genesis 2:24
Malachi 2:14
Ephesians 4:27
Ephesians 5:25
Colossians 3:19
1 Timothy 5:8
1 Peter 3:7-9

Verses from the book of Proverbs:
2:16-19
5:3-5, 8-11, 15-20
6:24-29, 32-35
7:5,21-23,25-27
9:16-18
10:12,19

11:17, 29
13:10,16, 24
14:29
15:1,16,18
16:2, 7, 8, 14, 24, 32

17:1, 13, 14
18:14, 21, 22
19:14, 18
21:14, 21-23
22:1, 6, 15, 24, 25
23:13, 14, 20, 21, 27, 28
24:14, 33, 34
25:11, 15, 28
26:4, 11, 12
27:8
28:10
29:11, 15, 17, 22
30:8, 9, 19, 32, 33
31:3, 28, 29